New baby at home

Walker Tate South was born on 5-17-21 weighing 8lbs and was 21 inches long. We have been home for exactly three weeks and if I am honest they haven’t been the easiest. I have never brought a new born home; Lucas was in the NICU for six weeks and he is three years old now, so everything is so new for me. It is like being a new mom all over again. His little body is so fragile and I am still learning his needs. I am sure it will get easier as each day passes but no one prepares you for this as a mom. That is really what I want to talk about on this blog post is, what they DON’T prepare you for when you’re pregnant.

No this isn’t a post simply to complain yet to hopefully let you know you aren’t alone!! First off, I am extremely blessed to have a healthy baby I was able to bring home with me because I didn’t get that luxury before. If you are a first time mom or have ten kids I am sure you can relate……and mama, you are doing a GREAT JOB!

I definitely think there should be a class for pregnant women, like a REAL class! A class that basically teaches you how to deal with all the stressors you are about to be slapped in the face with. No sleep but you need a lot of rest to keep your milk supply healthy, don’t have time to eat but you have to eat to keep your milk supply up, no time to drink water, but you have to drink a lot of water to keep your milk supply up, don’t stress because it will hurt your milk supply!! Get the point? I feel like I am falling down a hole and no one understands, no one gets it so I just keep it to myself….I hold it in and hold it together for my boys AND so my husband doesn’t run away fast!! He offers to help at night but he is the only one working right now so I need him to sleep, plus, I am a little stubborn so I just handle it; mamas, you get it!

The thing is there is no ONE way to raise your child. Breastfeed or don’t, feed them store bought baby food or make your own, buy them all organic boutique clothing or get it from Walmart….IT DOESN’T MATTER!! You are doing a good job. If you are worried about the kind of parent you are, you are doing a good job. We are all different and our children have different needs, what works for me may not work for you. I have to go back to work full time in a few weeks so I won’t be able to exclusively breast feed, do I want to? Not really to be honest and that is okay! Don’t let what others are doing effect the way you parent. Do your own thing! Sure, find inspiration, seek out help but don’t let it make you feel less than just because you aren’t doing this parenting thing the same way someone else is 🙂

Social media can put tons of pressure on us to “do it a certain way” but let me leave you with this reminder….IT IS FAKE! Most of it is anyways. We post what we want you to see….me too, I am guilty. I am not going to come on stories crying and screaming because I want to be a light for you, that means you won’t see my darkest moments. Plus, it is hard to be super vulnerable like that all the time. I struggle daily being a mom and wife. I fail often but I succeed often too!! You are more than enough and you are doing amazing!!

Make sure you share this with another mama who needs a reminder!!